A Little Ray of Sunshine

Monday, May 08, 2006

Four marriage offers

And the boys are still toddlers!
Two friends have said that they want our sons to marry their daughters someday, one has put in a request for her neice, and a fourth has said that when he marries (someday) and if he then has girls he wants them to marry our boys.
I suppose the boys will be able to be pretty picky. Friend number 1's daughters won't qualify anyway, as his wife is in the process of divorcing him, and sorry, but marriage is hard enough when people've had a good example of how to do it. No children of divorces need apply.
But considering that Beau's only three-and-a-half, at this rate, they'll have plenty of eligible options.


  • At 12:35 PM, May 10, 2006, Blogger CrazyJo said…

    Be careful who you say "will" or "won't" be considered for your sons. God has a way of bringing people together that can turn our opinions upside down. ;)
    When they get a little older you can really embarrass them by telling them of all the offers they've recieved. :D

  • At 11:37 AM, May 15, 2006, Blogger BoysMom said…

    Well, Joelle, my husband's homeland still uses arranged marriages quite regularly. So . . . it depends largely on where we live, I suppose. While we can't tell them they must marry such-and-such a girl in this country, not only could we tell them that in my husband's homeland, but society would pressure them to comply, no matter even if they couldn't stand the girl in question. (Thus my husband's parents have been married for over forty years.) Incedentally, there is a much lower divorce rate there. The young man also has to pay dowery to the girl's parents.
    That's not the plan, though. The idea is for them to understand why we think it is a bad idea for them to consider marrying a girl with divorced parents.
    We've noticed that people who come from divorced parents, while they may work quite hard and suceed very well at marriage, generally have a harder time making the marriage work. Simply because, I suspect, they haven't seen any examples of what works and therefore have to figure it out for themselves. (I've also noticed that marital problems tend to run in families: my mother's family, for all their many flaws, has only one divorce in the four living generations, which supports my theory, though of course generation #4 is not anywhere near old enough to marry yet.)
    Of course there are exceptions to any stereotype, but in general, children of divorced parents have more work to make a marriage work than children of married parents.


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